Friday, April 29, 2011

so tired ...

the title of this post says it all! sleeping has become near impossible. or sleeping comfortably i should say. i have one of those wonderful body prego pillows and that seems to help a bit,but pretty much after 3-4 hours i have to pee or eat or both! as soon as i am up little miss takes that as a cue that it must be daytime outside and she needs to stretch and do her morning yoga in there. knees and hands poking out everywhere! last md app't. i had they gave me a kick count card to record her movements on. ha! she moves 10 times in 10 seconds! my next app't. is this coming wed. my doula is going to be there as well to meet and greet baby sesame's parents. we're gonna have a full room come d-day! only 59 days left! me oh my!!!


31w2d

Tuesday, April 19, 2011

30 weeks!

my oh my! 30 weeks has flown by! i guess anywhere from 6-12 left. since i was induced with boo, i have no idea when this little one will arrive. i am going to do this as naturally as possible which means no induction (unless medically necessary) and NO pain meds.! i am actually looking forward to the birth and doing it differently this time.

my belly is getting bigger! i've gained 16 pounds so far. been having lots of braxton-hicks as i prepare for the real deal. i feel like i'm eating a ton and shouldn't be. i'm a little worried that this little girl will be big and i won't be able to push her out.

here's my belly pic. of the week -



~one faux mommy

Friday, April 15, 2011

yippee!!! 29w4d

had my baby sesame app't. this morning and all looks well. i've gained 16 pounds so far and still have about 10 weeks to go. i've typed out my birth plan and just need to fine tune it with my doula. i can't believe my journey is wrapping up!

so yippee? what's yippee? well, after doing a few breech exercises and mainly pointing a flashlight at the bottom of my tummy to make little miss turn her heiney around, the md did a quick u/s today and she is head down! yIppee!!! the md told me not to get too excited cause she could move and i told her to not jinx me please. sheesh! she also got on her high horse about not breastfeeding the baby! um ... i am NOT her momma and her momma doesn't wanna breastfeed (which would require hormome shots and who knows what else)! step off lady! she suggested a milk bank to them. look, we all know breastmilk is best for babies, but there isn't anything wrong with formula feeding them.

anyways, i am feeling good. tired most of the time. still having random contractions here and there. boo and i are going to one of my gf's baby shower tomorrow. she's due the day after me (with her for real baby) and is having a boy. hope you all have a fabulous weekend too!

~one faux mommy

Wednesday, April 13, 2011

surrogacy's faq's :)

i saw an article on the surrogacy spotlight's site on facebook about a gal who answered some frequently asked questions re: being a surrogate. i do get asked tons of questions (many of the same) and thought it was a good idea to answer them here for everyone to know the answers.

1. what made you want to become a surrogate?

i think i said this in my first blog post, but surrogacy had been on my mind for about 4 years before i started this journey. i knew that having 1 child was enough for me but the thought of never being pregnant again made me kinda sad. i enjoyed all the perks (and pits) of pregnancy. i had a pretty easy delivery (after they rotated my stubborn little girl) but honestly didn't realize how hard parenting was going to be. now as a single mom it is a lot harder, but i have tons of help and get breaks during the week. my daughter is her mommy and dad all rolled up in 1 cute smaller package and sometimes it makes me wanna pull my hair out, literally! being a surrogate, to me, is a mutually beneficial job. i get to enjoy being pregnant and not have to take any responsibility for the child and i am helping a couple who otherwise couldn't have started a family. see? win/win!

2. my response is generally followed by wow! i could never do that!

and that's ok because i can! i went into this arrangement with the mind set that this is NOT my baby. i am simply providing temporary housing and at the end of my 40 week stint, this person will go and live with their real mom and dad. don't get me wrong i love feeling her wiggle around and we talk to her, but there is not the attachment that i felt when i was carrying my own baby.

3. what if you have more than 1? or 8?

i am not a dog and i do not wish to carry a litter. i spoke with both my ip's and my doctor about how many embryo's i was comfortable transferring. i also prayed like never before because i was deathly afraid of carrying more than 1 baby. thankfully He answers prayer and i only have 1 in there! :)

4. but won't you wanna keep her after you see her?

ummm ... no! she.is.not.my.baby. my egg was not used and i didn't have a partner contributing any sperm. i have a daughter and she's enough for me.

after little miss is born i am simply giving her back to her parents. she was never mine to begin with. her parent's entrusted me with their embryo's and after she's here, my job is done.

5. what does your hubby think? he would never let me carry another person's baby!

first off i'm not married and if i was, i'm glad it's not to your man! surrogacy has been on my heart for many years and if someone can't accept that part of me, they don't get to have me.

6. does your daughter understand what's going on?

yes she does. i explained that not everyone is able to have a baby of their own and omitting all graphic details, told her that baby sesame has other parents. they have all met and are very sweet to my girl. she did recently ask if we could keep baby sesame and i reminded her that baby sesame's parents would be very sad if we did that since they have been waiting for her for a very long time (not to mention my daughter would be visiting me in the slammer! kidding!) she understood, said ok, she saw a butterfly or something shiny and ran after it!

7. how much money are you getting for this?

i think this question offends me the most. i don't ask how much you make at your job. if you're really that interested in how much money surrogates make, please call an agency and sign up to be a surrogate!

there have been many discussions out there about if surrogates should be compensated and how much, etc... fact of the matter is, i am doing a job and providing a service to someone else. this job is a 24/7 job for up to 42 weeks and has some major downfalls to it sometimes. so please try and control yourself when you want to ask me this question and don't. :)

Thursday, April 7, 2011

similarities

so there have been 2 huge similarities in this pregnancy and my pregnancy with my daughter.

1. i said this before and it's totally true - i only carry girls! i know i've only had 2 pregnancies, but that's 2 for 2 baby!

2. i apparently only carry headstrong and stubborn little girls! meaning, my daughter was breech the entire 9 months and this little girl is sitting in the same position boo was in (at least as far as i can tell from palpating my tummy and getting the crap kicked outta me). i don't remember how much my daughter moved, but sometimes i expect to see a foot come pushing out!

my next ob app't. is fri. 4.15 and i'm looking forward to seeing how much weight i've gained. so far it's been 11 pounds. my belly is measuring bigger than i did with boo, but weight gain has been the same.

my surrofriend e, cousin and i went to lunch last week and it was delicious! my waffles were the size of a small country and it took me 3 days to eat them all!


see! i wasn't kidding!


2 surromama's!

~one faux mommy